Well folks, I struggle with this. As mentioned in my other blog post "Can you still have compassion with boundaries?". When can you "trust" that someone has truly changed? If history has taught us anything, we have to remember the past to avoid similar mistakes. On the other hand, can we "forget" the past and let someone show up as a better person? I think we can, but it's complicated. As you have probably heard before, there is a saying that Jesus "forgives and forgets".
Therefore, in my belief, if we truly want to be like Christ we have to "forget" the mistakes and imperfections of others. They are growing and changing to be their best self, just like we are ourselves. BUT we can never let someone, who has continually hurt us over and over again, cross the boundaries we have set to keep ourself safe. I think, as Christians, we must remember that we can still have compassion on those around us even with boundaries. When we "enable" abusive relationships in the name of "compassion", it is no longer compassion anymore...it's just toxic endurance. Don't you think that God wants you to feel peace as you are compassionate? Not miserable and angry while you endure?
Just something to think about.
With love,
Gia
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